Sex Positions To Enjoy Lovemaking More!

Although the presence of the penis in the vagina produces a feeling of pleasure and some women cannot have an orgasm unless it is there, it is important that both man and woman understand that the climax in most women cannot be reached without stimulation of the clitoris.

During intercourse, the upper part of the base of the penis should be in constant contact with the clitoris, massaging and stimulating it as it moves back and forth in the vagina.

In cases where it is not possible to achieve this contact, either the man or the woman, but preferably the man, should rub the clitoris with his fingers.

However, every effort should be made to devise a coital position where contact between them can be attained.

A man achieves orgasm by the friction of the rigid vaginal walls against the glans as he moves back and forth rhythmically.

With a little practice, he can learn to carry on coitus for some time by pressing the base of the penis against the clitoris, making slight movements to stimulate it but not vigorously enough to further arouse his own feelings, until the woman is fully roused.

She can co-operate by curtailing her own movements until the final moments.

This because a common source of sexual unhappiness is premature ejaculation: the man cannot control ejaculation for even a short time after entry. Sometimes ejaculation occurs immediately upon entry, and sometimes even before, upon contact with the vulva.

This is very bad for the woman, who is left in a state of tension and frustration, and had for the man as well.

However, many men can train themselves to maintain erection for longer periods, with patience and the cooperation of their wives. Resting for up to 15 minutes after entry, with no coital movements until the immediate danger of ejaculation is past, is recommended.

Another method to help gain control and confidence is the use of local anesthesia. Applied to the glans, it will slightly numb the nerve-endings and control or even stop premature ejaculation reactions.

There are several ointments suitable for the purpose, which can be obtained from a physician or pharmacy. A very small amount of the ointment, rubbed well into the head of the penis at least fifteen minutes before intercourse starts, should have a good effect.

Note that this kind of ointment contains an anesthetic and too much of it may produce symptoms of delayed ejaculation - not a recipe for sexual pleasure for either partner. Click here to read more about treatment of delayed ejaculation.

Care should be taken not to use too much nor start coitus too soon. A little practice will reveal the best amount and time for application. Start with only a tiny bit, no bigger than a bead. The result, in prolonged coitus and intensified climax, may well be worth the extra trouble.

Sexual Positions

The chief lubrication for the genitals during coitus comes the vagina. Although some women have a great deal of secretion, others do not have enough, especially if intercourse is prolonged or repeated. It is always a good idea to have a reliable lubricant handy. Saliva is a good one, but dries up quickly.

Man on top is the best position and also the most common. In this position, the woman lies flat on her back, sometimes with a pillow under her hips, flexes her legs and spreads her thighs so that the man can lie between them.

Complete insertion of the penis and proper contact between it and the clitoris can be easily achieved if the man does not lie too far down. The man should not lie heavily on the woman, but rest his weight on his elbows and knees.

Dead weight can crush a woman painfully and destroy her pleasure and response. For prolonged coitus, he may place one or both thighs outside of hers. If she closes her thighs after entrance, it is believed that the pressure of her vulva will help a small penis maintain erection.

It is possible to buy rings made of sponge rubber, which come in varying sizes, when the penis is too long for the vagina. The ring looks like a large washer and is slipped over the penis and pushed down to the base. The width of the ring controls the depth of penetration.

Coital Alignment Technique

The coital alignment technique is a serious attempt to increase male-female sexual compatibility, using principles of clitoral contact to produce orgasm in the woman.

The technique combines the riding high modified missionary position with another technique - that of moving together during sexual intercourse in a way which applies rhythmic pressure to the clitoris.

This can be effective in bringing the woman towards orgasm.

It's absolutely essential in using the coital alignment technique that the partners establish the correct rhythm of sexual movement, one which is absolutely identical for both partners, the man and the woman, in both pattern and in pace.

To start with, the woman leads in the upward stroke of sexual movement, and she does so, she forces the man's pelvis backwards.

He complies with pressure and allows his pelvis to move backwards, but at the same time he is also providing what we could describe as a resisting counterpressure against the area of the woman's clitoris.

As the woman's pelvis moves upwards and forward, her vagina engulfs the whole of his penile shaft more deeply. On the next stroke, the downward stroke, the movement is effectively reversed, with the man starting by forcing the woman's pelvis backward.

At the same time, she provides a resistant counter pressure, pressing her clitoris against the base of a man's penis. The result of this is that as her pelvis moves backward and downward, the man's penile shaft presses against the female mons, and it slides out of her vagina somewhat.

The originator of the coital alignment technique, Edward Eichel, was insistent that the partners had to maintain pressure against each other at all times in a ratio of approximately 60% of the force applied by the person leading the movement to 40% in the person providing the counterpressure.

It's not a simple straightforward technique, but it is well worth learning if you're interested in enjoying better lovemaking with the very real possibility of female orgasm during intercourse. You can read full details here - a better way of loving - and get a video which illustrates it too.

Woman On Top

In many respects, the reverse, or woman-above sexual position is the better one for lovemaking. Although she should be careful not to rest too heavily on the man, the woman is frequently lighter in weight.

Also, and most important, she can adjust herself so that the penis is always in contact with the clitoris, and she has more freedom of movement and can abandon herself to a variety of movements that help her come to orgasm.

To achieve this sexual position, the man lies flat on his back and the woman kneels over him, astraddle, and settles down while they guide the penis into the vagina.

She then straightens out her legs and lies on him, with her thighs either outside or between his.

This is similar to the astride position, in which the woman sits upon or kneels across the man’s body, while he draws up his legs to support her back.

The clitoris has excellent contact with the penis in this position, but care must be exercised that it does not penetrate too deeply.

The side-by-side sexual position was highly recommended by the poet, Ovid, in his famous work, “The Art of Love”, as affording not only the greatest comfort, but the ability to prolong intercourse for a long period.

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It certainly allows men who tend to ejaculate too quickly to achieve good and effective premature ejaculation treatment much more easily. In this position, the couple lie on their sides facing each other.

The woman places her upper thigh over the upper thigh of the man so he can enter freely. It has the advantage that the couple can pass into sleep following coitus without separating. It is also recommended during pregnancy, as reducing strain and danger of injury.

The rear-entry sex position is also practiced for a variety of reasons. In this variation, the man lies on his side in back of the woman, both facing the same way.

He must lie lower in the bed than she, to get under the swell of the buttocks, but it can be quite satisfactory for him.

The woman, however, may find it less pleasing because the penis has no contact at all with the clitoris. While the man can easily reach it and massage it with his fingers during coitus to bring about simultaneous orgasm, it has not the same effect as when stimulated by the penis.

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Updated November 11, 2016